You only have three options in every situation which causes dis-ease, and I learned this from Eckhart Tolle, in his work The Power of Now. The 3 options are: 1. You can try to change it 2. You can accept it 3. You can avoid it. If you try to change it, and sometimes you can, you have to learn to put systems in play so it never happens again. You have to be at peace
Second option, accept that that’s the way it is. Now, there’s a book out by Byron Katie, Loving What Is, and it breaks down the idea of “accepting” to very simplistic terms. In Loving What Is, she says dogs bark, cats meow, guys lay on the couch. It’s what is. It’s the way God created them. It’s just what is.
Often, in dealing with patients that have a “problem” with someone else, I show them how the person they’re complaining about is no different than…and I would use and animal…and they say, “He just lies around.” And I say, “Well, he’s like a cat. A cat just lies around.” “He never listens to me. “He only sometimes listens to me or conveniently listens to me.” And I say, “Still sounds like a cat. A cat lies around. You can tell it something. It may listen to you. It may not. But, if you call it around dinner time, the probability of it getting up and paying attention to you is higher.” And, the person says, “Yes, that’s my husband.” So, I reply, “Well, he’s a cat. Are you going to change a cat? No. Are you going to change your husband? No. It’s the way God created him.”
So, you have a choice to either change or accept the relationship or the person. It’s the way God created it. There is nothing wrong with “it” (him, her, an event or object). It’s just what is.
If you choose avoidance, you the option to avoid the person, place or thing… at all cost! The reason why is unconsciously or consciously, you don’t want to make the decision that you have a fourth choice and that fourth choice is dis-ease.
Let me tell you the way it works…
Let’s say at work you have a shift in culture. You’ve got a new CEO, different management style, new boss, new task, whatever, a change of culture, change of something that takes your peace away at work. Your first thing is, “Well, I can’t change it. I’m not the CEO. I’m not in charge. So, changing isn’t an option.” So number two is accepting. “What they’re doing isn’t right. I can never accept it. It’s not right.” So, you’re left with one last choice and that is to avoid.
Now, to avoid means to go and look for another job. When I’m working with patients that have issues in the work environment (and I have a large percentage of patients that fall into this category) they manifest an illness because they didn’t try to change the situation, didn’t accept it the way it is, and didn’t avoid it. That leaves only on option and that is dis-ease. They no longer have to go to work if they have dis-ease. Disease is a way out. Now, you’re probably saying, “Well, are you telling me that people consciously or unconsciously manifest a serious physical condition, so they don’t have to go to work?” My answer is yes, this is often the case. I see it every day, and not only do I see it every day, but I see it more than once every day.
I try to assist patients in accepting it, but when we get to that point of, if they can’t accept it and if they can’t change it because they’re not the CEO, or they are not in a position to change it, it leaves them with these options. It’s either avoid it, be sick until retirement or no longer be around. I suggest they avoid it. I tell patients, “I would rather you sell coconuts down on the beach, live a simple lifestyle and be at peace.” If you don’t get up in the morning and you don’t look forward to the place you’re going, you need to look around.
I always ask clients and patients “What’s your priority?” And they go through their own top three or four, and usually health is in the top three, because if you don’t have health, your family doesn’t mean anything. If you don’t have health, finances don’t mean anything. Nothing really means a lot if you do not have health. But what I point out to my patients is that if you do not have any time, that’s more important than health, because you could have all the health in the world, but if you don’t have any time left, health doesn’t matter.
Another priority should concern your spiritual being. The spiritual being is the soul essence that occupies the body. If this hadn’t been given to you by God, at the beginning of time, you would not exist. The soul is a number one priority, time is number two and then health is number three in priority
If health is truly the number three priority on your chart, then when something comes about, why don’t you address it immediately? I hear clients and patients say, “Well, I don’t want to hurt the person’s feelings. I don’t want to confront them. I don’t want to avoid them.” So, what you’re saying is, you’d rather stuff it in your body and hurt yourself.
What happens when you stuff it in your body that is tied and buried within you unconsciously and I literally see this in patients. The situation might have happened 70 years ago but the patient is still carrying it. Just by mentioning one word that is tied to the emotion of 70 years ago causes the body to tense up. Their blood pressure increases and the energy in his/her body starts shifting unfavorably. He/she doesn’t even know that it is happening.
So, when I say, “Go ahead. Take care of it immediately at all cost,” I mean it. There’s nothing more important. There’s nothing more important that you need to do right this second, and whatever it is, and I don’t care what it is, you need to take care of it this moment.
This iidea for wellness, is extremely powerful and easy to implement, and that is, when you’re the observer, when you’re monitoring your peace, when you’re waking up and you meditate and you’re conscious about the thoughts and the environment around you and the emotions you’ve tied to each thought, when something challenges you or begins to take your peace away or it takes your peace away, here’s what you need to do. You need to confront all issues immediately at all cost! The reason why I say immediately is because the longer it goes, the more the issue “festers.” The more your body is responding to not being at ease, and the more your body is in this “not at ease” state, the more it increases your chances for dis-ease. So, when I say act on it immediately, I mean act on it immediately. When I say at all cost, I mean at all cost.
For healing, anything that takes peace away, anything that causes concerns, and/or anything that causes fear, take its power away. Even in dealing with my patients and their relationships and family, if they have a spouse or a family member that just “rattles their cage” or takes the peace away out of a patient I’m working with, one of the first things I do is, suggest to the patient to take the power away from that individual and return it to God.
The individuals that you give power to don’t deserve the power. You’ve given that person power, so if they do not have any power, they cannot cause you any harm. For complete wellness wellness, do not give God’s power to anyone or anything. It is not your job to give away God’s power.
The fifth idea for wellness comes from a book that I love, A Course of Miracles, by The Foundation of Inner Peace and in this wonderful text they have the saying, “Don’t give God’s power away.” What is meant by that is, if you don’t give anything any power, it can’t cause any harm.
With the patients that I work with, I usually break it down this way. “Is there but only one power?” “Yes.” “And, is that God’s power?” “Yes.” Then, depending on their beliefs I ask; “Is that power good?” They say, “Yes.” “Is that power love?” Well, if there’s only one power, then why do you give God’s power away? And, if there’s only one power, and that power is good, why do you take that power and give it to something else?”
I see it happening all the time. Right now, one of the biggest segments with the male patients that I work with is that they have a problem with the government. They have problems with Congress. They have a problem with whoever’s in office. They have given politicians power. The power of God. They’ve taken it from God and given it to something or someone else.
What about cancer? We give it power. The power is based on fear. Somebody tricked you into giving God’s power to “it”. Do not give it any of God’s Power. It is not your job to give God’s Power to anything. The power of anything other than good, other than love, is an illusion. It is something that you have allowed yourself to believe in order to trick you into giving it power, because there’s only one power and it’s not darkness. Everything ends up going to the light. Everything at some point ends up going back to God.
So, where does darkness come from? We gave it God’s power. We did it out of fear. It is really easy to destroy darkness. Bring forth light and you take away darkness’s power. It has no power unless you give it power. Light casts out darkness. Darkness cannot exist where there’s light. Everything…and I mean it when I say it…everything returns to the light.